Wednesday, March 30, 2016

Avoiding blame!! It is not uncommon to hear in group, "Why do these things always happen to me?"

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Avoiding blame

It is not uncommon to hear in group, "Why do these things always happen to me?" If "these things" are always happening to us, the obvious answer is that we somehow bring them on ourselves. We are largely unconscious of what we're doing wrong until, slowly, eventually; we manage to dig ourselves out from the results. (It seems incredible that we actually seek to be hurt, but in a way many of us do so, with regularity.)

But blaming others for our problems and indulging in self-pity don't move us along in our program.

Am I still blaming others?

Higher Power, help me take responsibility for myself and my actions, because blaming others will only keep me stuck.
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Tuesday, March 29, 2016

When we've had a good laugh at ourselves for our imperfections that we can really begin to gain in stature.

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You grow up the first day you have the first real laugh - at yourself.
--Ethel Barrymore

Infants chuckle and gurgle and find the world amusing, but apparently they rarely laugh at themselves. Perhaps that's because they're still very much the lord and master of their world. Even when they see themselves in the mirror, tots are more likely to find themselves incredible than hilarious.

As we grow wiser we gain a sense of proportion about ourselves and our position in the universe. Just as the earth is not the center of the solar system, so we are just one of billions of people on our planet.

Can we smile at ourselves? Or are we always guarding our dignity or feeling fragile and vulnerable? A sense of humor means the ability to enjoy human foibles, even at our own expense. Having this kind of humor helps us to put others - and especially ourselves in relation to others - in perspective. Perhaps it is only when we've had a good laugh at ourselves for our imperfections that we can really begin to gain in stature. By keeping our importance in perspective, we learn to grow.

I can enjoy a good laugh - and will allow myself the freedom of a sense of humor, especially about myself.
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Monday, March 28, 2016

The worse we feel, the more we want to self-destruct.

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The cause is hidden, but the result is known.

--Ovid

We know it's coming before we do it.

Our boy[girl]friend dumps us and we devour the ice cream.
  We have a fight with our spouse and treat ourselves to a new leather jacket - at his or her expense.

We don't get the promotion so we head for the bar.

 We decide that because we're feeling bad anyway, we might as well take full advantage of it.
 We figure the worse we feel, the more entitled we are to the indulgence.



This type of behavior starts a cycle!!!

The worse we feel, the more we want to self-destruct.

Let's face it - our actions are usually premeditated.


We think about the food,work, sex, internet etc.

e.g.- ice cream, the drink, or the leather jacket until we can get to it.


During the planning stage, we can shift gears.

We think it through. We know we have a choice.

We decide to do something healthy instead of destructive.


Today I will make only healthy choices for myself.


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Sunday, March 27, 2016

God can't hand you anything new until you let go of what you're holding.


God can't hand you anything new
until you let go of what you're holding.

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If you keep bringing your body,
your mind will follow.
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My problems are self-made.

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Yesterday is so far in the past I can't see it;
tomorrow is too distant in the future to be seen.
So I'll take a good look at what I can see - today.

 
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Saturday, March 26, 2016

The how of this Spiritual Program is Honesty, Open-mindedness, and Willingness.

Being willing

People often ask, "How does this Spirital Program work?" The how of this Spiritual Program is Honesty, Open-mindedness, and Willingness. Often we must pray for willingness; sometimes we even have to pray to be willing to be willing!

We have very stubborn wills. If surrendered daily, however, they can accomplish much good for others and ourselves. Surely those who say, "I will, I will" and don't are not as close to the heart of God as those who say "I will not," but do!

Am I really willing?

God, help me realize that to do your will for me today, in however small a way, I must let go of my own will.
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Friday, March 25, 2016

All or Nothing or everything is Black or White, equals No Balance...

If someone is going to control me, it might as well be me!!!
-- Sarah B.

Ours is, and must be, a selfish Spiritual Program. Our Spiritual Recovery must be the most important thing in the world to us. Sometimes friends and loved ones are confused and hurt because we spend so much time and energy working at our Spiritual Journey . It's hard to explain why, yes, we must work it daily.

But however difficult, however hurtful or confusing to others our behavior might seem, we must take care of our own needs first. We're no use to our friends and family if we've relapsed to the way we were in the past.
 and are no use to ourselves, either. Our choices must seem like selfish ones. Our Spiritual Journey must come first, before the demands of others or even our own comfort. We need to keep our new determination, and work toward a new way of life.

Before, we told ourselves we'd quit tomorrow, that something would happen to make us change. Now, at last, we have the tools to arrest our addictions to ,addictive behavior is not related to either physical tolerance or exposure to cues. People compulsively use work drugs, gamble, or shop nearly always in reaction to being emotionally stressed, whether or not they have a physical addiction. Since these psychologically based addictions are not based on drug or brain effects, they can account for why people frequently switch addictive actions from one drug to a completely different kind of drug, or even to a non-drug behavior. The focus of the addiction isn't what matters; it's the need to take action under certain kinds of stress. 

Treating this kind of addiction requires an understanding of how it works psychologically.

All or Nothing or everything is Black or White, equals No Balance...

 But the tools will only work if we use them to find Balance on  our Spiritual Journey .

Today help me be in control of my own destiny.

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